She is Uplifting (Swagger?)
So I had a very interesting convo with my girls the other day. All of us are dating and some how the topic of “swag” came up. It’s interesting because when I was in high school I wanted the guys whose swag was so high it was off the swag meter LMAO. But now my girls and I have reached a consensus that most of those men who have too much are either dogs or just really cocky and the ones without any swag just aren’t that appealing. So maybe it’s about finding a guy is who is somewhere in the middle. Cool/Confident and nice enough (hopefully down to earth too) to be appealing but not overly confident.
Lets just call these ladies “Swagger Girl 1” and “Swagger Girl 2” lol
So the Convo Started Like This…
Me: “ I have to marry a guy with some swag even if it’s on level 2 or 3 lol”
(Head nods all around)
Swagger Girl 1: Obama has swag! Jay Z has swag! TI has swag! Wale has swag!
(Head nods all around)
Swagger Girl 2: I feel bad telling guys that I am not interested in them.
Me: Why! It is better to have people feel a little hurt now then a lot hurt later…girllll please!
Me: Ok lets define swag…
Swagger Girl 2: Swagger is confidence elevated to the next level.
Swagger Girl 1: I define swagger as sexy confidence. Not just having confidence but having a smooth appealing confidence that adds to your personality. You don’t have to be cute, handsome or sexy to have swagger. It is something either you have or you don’t have.
But too much swag could be a problem. We want to meet and hang around (and stare at) swaggerlicious men but we don’t really want to be in a relationship with a level 10 swagged up man! Too much swag may cut into our needed attention. And we ladies want our attention! Having swagger doesn’t mean you are fine; but if you are fine and have an above 5 level of swag, there is a huge chance that the result could be a cocky confident man! Yuck and no thanks!
Me: Just good looks won’t cut it…Just having swag won’t cut it…Just being good on paper wont cut it. I have to find you attractive (body/mind) and you have to have SWAG…a sexy confidence in who you are and what you bring to the table. The only non swag men I would date (if they didn’t have it, but they do) would be Blair Underwood, This FINE Italian model (Don’t know his name), and uhhh and a few other gorgeous men that get a pass (LOL)…
Swagger Girl 2: Swagg makes up for other things that would make me overlook a guy. I’m looking for a guy with potential and promise, the entire package doesn’t have to be complete.
LADIES OR GENTS I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear your thoughts…
Does swag even matter to you? Are women asking too much? lol or Is being swaggerliscious muy importante?
Xoxo
Ally
January 29th, 2010 at 10:00 pm
Love, love, love this blog A. Marie!!!!! LOL
Swag - appeal, confidence, secure, could care less what people say, has a style of his own that may not appeal to the mass (be he doesn’t care b/c he is confident)…I need a man with some swag ladies!!! I am with Ally - even if he is on level one or two w/ swag…it’s all good for me! George Clonney - SWAG!!!!
Non-cute guy w/ swag…love it!!! Nerd w/ swag…sexy!!!!!! Ohhh - swag just makes me warm inside! Love the blog:)
“Liberated Woman”
January 30th, 2010 at 3:54 am
Lol. This was great.
One of the things I’ve noticed mirrors your own sentiment - most guys who’d rate super high on the swag meter are either full of themselves, or full of sh….
I think the trick is to be able to look past a lower swag…rating {lol} in order to see what else he’s got going on. Is he kind? Dedicated? Ambitious? Humble? Funny? Focused? What else about him attracts you? Because I’m pretty sure that when he’s getting on your nerves a year later, his swag won’t mean a dang thing.
{Okay, okay…maybe, at least a little bit, it will (some guys are still swag sexy, even when they’re pissing you off), but still…}
January 30th, 2010 at 5:05 am
@Liberated Woman I feel ya on the George Clooney thing…he is FINE even at his age lol
@JeLisa Girllll you’re funny
and oh so right because it really is about accepting a lower swag level. We gotta start giving the “good” guys a chance! 2010 needs to be the year of appreciating the “good guy” lol
xo
Ally
January 30th, 2010 at 5:13 am
@JeLisa WAIT A MINUTE!!! I just checked out your blog and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE IT! It’s so beautiful to see that you are in a happy and healthy relationship…I am happy for you girly!
xoxo
Ally
January 30th, 2010 at 12:20 pm
WOW, great girl talk there! I’m so not into swag! In high school, I was into guys that had a lot of swag and it didn’t work out because I had the same swag! LOL, I turned my swag down in later years and run like hell in the opposite direction from men that are too cocky! I’m all about mental stimulation and like NERDS!!! (They are so attentive)
January 30th, 2010 at 3:05 pm
Yes, swag is a must have!!!! I agree with Liberated Women, he only has to appeal to me! If he has enough swag for me, then we are good to go! I need the swag to be there but I need other qualities to trump the swag level, like JeLisa mentioned–he has to treat me nice, be respectful and caring and have something going for himself. Last, but definitely not least, I have to find him attractive!! That is also a must
January 31st, 2010 at 12:23 am
Yeah it matters, and I think so many women have had convos so similar to this. What I’d like to add is that it is equally important for women to bring as much swag to the situation as well. I sense that I’m in good company, so I know you ladies have swag of your own. My goal for the new year is to step my swag up a notch or two